Changes as I age

Since I've been living on my own, I've never had a nice kitchen until now. Since getting the nice kitchen, I find that I'm spending a few hours in it every day, either cleaning or making stuff for me or W or the dogs. Now I'm wondering: Am I spending more time in there because it's nice and open, or was it because I was starting to spend more time in the kitchen that we got a nice and open one. The result is still the same though: I am turning into a person my youthful self would've scoffed at.

New Puppy!

Meet Loki, our newest pack member!

What a cutie, eh?

Best Couple

Quick! When asked about best couples in films, who do you think of? Bogart & Bacall? Tracy & Hepburn? Rhett & Scarlett? (Am I showing my age damnit?) Okay more modern: the couples in Crazy Stupid Love?

I remember sitting in an Eagle Rock movie theatre with Alex, my writing partner. We were in L.A. and for some reason had time to kill before we came back up here. And we both wanted to see Fargo badly.

What struck me about the movie was the tenderness and gentleness between Frances McDormand and the actor who played her husband. The acceptance. At first, the husband seemed slow, plodding and irritating to me. Then by the end of the movie, I liked him. More than that, I liked them.

To me, that's what makes a lasting relationship - tenderness. If that's present in the relationship and is the foundation of it, then most troubles/rough spots get to have a gentle blanket over them so the jagged edges don't hurt as much. And there will always be jagged edges. That's the other thing to remember.

I'm not much of a tender person. But I am learning. It's far easier for me to give tenderness then to receive it. Bratworse has been trying to teach me to receive and it's a hard lesson for someone with as many jagged edges as I have. Part of it is fear that she'll dash herself onto the cliffrocks of my personality. Part of it is fear that tenderness will wash away the rocks of my armor and expose the tender spots below.

More and more, I see us turning into a tender couple, out to support and nurture each other. And that's a good thing.

Appreciating People

Every one who has ever been to my Condo, knows of Ed. They know he's the building manager and that if anything goes wrong, he's the one to call. Not only that, but he's often the building's greeter, gossip-center, and basically heart of the building. Today, we presented him with a gift for 19 years of friendship and service. He said that we're the first to ever do that for him How is that possible!

Folks, if there's someone in your lives that's been a help for a long time, and never a hindrance, shouldn't those people deserve a reward? I can't believe that we're the first. Hopefully, we won't be the only.

R.I.P. Junior

I don't know why your death affected me so. Is it because your mom and dad were familiar sights on TV during the 80s & 90s and to see them in such anguish is heartbreaking? Or is it because suicide has impacted my life in recent years and you always seemed like the one football player I'd like to know.

All I know is, though I never rooted for the Chargers, though I disliked the Chargers vehemently, I sought your name out whenever you were on the screen.

Junior Seau, you were a great representative of the Asian/Pacific Rim. As an Asian, I was glad you represented me. Thank you. And thanks for all the great entertainment in football you've provided for 20 years.

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Teaching a friend about blogs

Just entering in some stuff here for a friend to see how this works.

Here I'm showing her how to add a link: Boing boing is a great site.

Here I'm showing her how to add a picture. This is a picture of my character in New Worlds, Iedo.